need some advice. relationship problem?

December 7, 2009
relationship problem advice
carl asked:


Hi i just wanted some help from u guys.. i met this girl late june at a party.. we got a long well the following week we had a long chat at an ice cream parlour, a few days later we went for a movie together.. we loved each others company so much,, then on july 28th at 11:48pm she sms’d me that she likes me.. i said that i to like her.. she called me regularly in the following days… a few weeks later she sms’d me telling that she loves me and that i am her bf ..she said that at this age we need to think for the future and that its not for fun to be in a relationship.. then on august 8th she had called me over to her work area in college we had a chat for a while .. she looked dull she later told me that her parents are looking out for a guy for her and that she is not sure how long we can hang togetter.. i was shattered… later that nite she said that everything will be alrigth and that we need to have faith..sshe wanted me to meet her parents. thw following weeks she started acting strangly with me.. she used to ask me if every one in college knew abt out relationship and when i said yes she would be happy then the next week would say things like ” are we dating ? ” , i started going crazy by the way she was behaving .. i used to message a lot… to know the truth she then said that i need some space.. i backed out a bit… then once nite she said that we can only be friends our family and lifestyle dont match i was devastated.. i kept away she messaged the next3 days saying sorry and stuff that she should not have said all tht.. a few days later i called her and expressed how i felt abt her.. for a few days she was good to me then it went back to her moody nature.. she acted very indifferent on the phone .. never talke abt meeting up over weekends.. i kept away then after a few days she would sms/call me .. say like lets catch up.. sms me if i was alright … this weeks she’s back to her moody nature …
a few days ago i found out through a common friends that she had said that she was feeling lonely and that she was willing to have a love marraige if her parents we ok with the guy…am still in col will have to get a job next semester when i graduate….. need some help..
am feeling low ..

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Different religions views, confusion, and saving a relationship?

November 16, 2009
saving a relationship
? ? asked:


My BF is confused about us as he feels he got way in over his head. We both love each other, but our parents will never accept our relationship and we always knew this. I never expected our relationship to result in marriage .. but we love each other and we enjoy every minute spent together and i dont believe it needs to end until our career paths take us away.. or another reason. I just dont believe there is any harm in us being together as long as we already know the expectations, We are already deeply in love.. it isnt going to get any harder. He feels guilty that he is wasting my time… and doesnt know how to end it and doesnt know how to keep it going. He’s lost. This is his first relationship and he doesnt seem to know how to organize everything in my mind.However im older and have had several other relationships, some serious, some not. i recently made it clearthat i never expected.. or hoped for a committment from him.. and he was shocked to hear that to be the case. And wanted to take a little break and get back together as soon as school starts again. He has no interest in seeing other girls… because hes technically not supposed to be dating at all. I truly believe there is no other girl in his life. We arent sexually active either..

Please dont try to convice me that our relationship isnt worth saving…

If i want to save our relationship at this state of confusion, unhappiness and lonliness, what can i do to make the best effort?

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Different religions views, confusion, and saving a relationship?

November 14, 2009
saving a relationship
? ? asked:


My BF is confused about us as he feels he got way in over his head. We both love each other, but our parents will never accept our relationship and we always knew this. I never expected our relationship to result in marriage .. but we love each other and we enjoy every minute spent together and i dont believe it needs to end until our career paths take us away.. or another reason. I just dont believe there is any harm in us being together as long as we already know the expectations, We are already deeply in love.. it isnt going to get any harder. He feels guilty that he is wasting my time… and doesnt know how to end it and doesnt know how to keep it going. He’s lost. This is his first relationship and he doesnt seem to know how to organize everything in my mind.However im older and have had several other relationships, some serious, some not. i recently made it clearthat i never expected.. or hoped for a committment from him.. and he was shocked to hear that to be the case. And wanted to take a little break and get back together as soon as school starts again. He has no interest in seeing other girls… because hes technically not supposed to be dating at all. I truly believe there is no other girl in his life. We arent sexually active either..

Please dont try to convice me that our relationship isnt worth saving…

If i want to save our relationship at this state of confusion, unhappiness and lonliness, what can i do to make the best effort?

J K Roy

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having a relationship problem just need advice ?

September 3, 2009
relationship problem advice
saint asked:


i have been with this girl for a year and three months and its been hard on us we had to sneak around to see each other because her family had problems with me because i had a rough life and wasnt a saint.. well because its winter in her new room her window freezes so she cant get out to see me alot other than the occasional meet up at the mall deal so i have only had the chance to see her 4 times in the last couple months of the relationship she all of a sudden out of the blue has feelings for this other guy thats been hitting on her since we have been together and well she tells me since im the only person she has ever had a real relationship with that she needs to make sure that im the one that if she wants to continue her relationship with me she needed to date other ppl so she decided to take a break and date this other guy right off the bat as soon as the break started and i had to find out from friends that she was gona go on a date this guy the day after the break had began… she tells me she loves me all the time still and that we will b together and i was a perfect bf i treated her like a princess that she just needs to make sure im the one.. shes been with this guy on 2 dates and is holding hands making out and getting real serious real fast but then she doesnt want me to date other ppl wants me to just sit around and wait i thought it she was out of her mind…. well she keeps telling me she loves me but then gos and tells me oh she made out with her bf today…. i just dont know what to do i have had my chance to date lots of other girls and this is the only girl that i ever fell in love with and im just looking for advice on what to do about this because ive never had this happen before……. also yea i know its ironic the nickname love doc i can help other ppl with there relationships but cant help mine….. just looking for some advice

Emanuel
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need some advice. relationship problem?

August 31, 2009
relationship problem advice
carl asked:


Hi i just wanted some help from u guys.. i met this girl late june at a party.. we got a long well the following week we had a long chat at an ice cream parlour, a few days later we went for a movie together.. we loved each others company so much,, then on july 28th at 11:48pm she sms’d me that she likes me.. i said that i to like her.. she called me regularly in the following days… a few weeks later she sms’d me telling that she loves me and that i am her bf ..she said that at this age we need to think for the future and that its not for fun to be in a relationship.. then on august 8th she had called me over to her work area in college we had a chat for a while .. she looked dull she later told me that her parents are looking out for a guy for her and that she is not sure how long we can hang togetter.. i was shattered… later that nite she said that everything will be alrigth and that we need to have faith..sshe wanted me to meet her parents. thw following weeks she started acting strangly with me.. she used to ask me if every one in college knew abt out relationship and when i said yes she would be happy then the next week would say things like ” are we dating ? ” , i started going crazy by the way she was behaving .. i used to message a lot… to know the truth she then said that i need some space.. i backed out a bit… then once nite she said that we can only be friends our family and lifestyle dont match i was devastated.. i kept away she messaged the next3 days saying sorry and stuff that she should not have said all tht.. a few days later i called her and expressed how i felt abt her.. for a few days she was good to me then it went back to her moody nature.. she acted very indifferent on the phone .. never talke abt meeting up over weekends.. i kept away then after a few days she would sms/call me .. say like lets catch up.. sms me if i was alright … this weeks she’s back to her moody nature …
a few days ago i found out through a common friends that she had said that she was feeling lonely and that she was willing to have a love marraige if her parents we ok with the guy…am still in col will have to get a job next semester when i graduate….. need some help..
am feeling low ..

Floyd
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Relationship Advice – Friendship Problem?

August 9, 2009
relationship problem advice
V.A. asked:


I’m pretty good friends w/ this girl, call her D. D & I spend a lot of time talking on the phone, >hour every other day or so. We’ve only hung out a few times though. D has a bf, & it’s pretty serious. The situation: Her bf doesn’t like the fact that D & I are friends. A few weeks ago, he (temporarily) broke up w/ D b/c she didn’t answer his phone while she was talking to me. According to her, he flipped out when D told him we hung out the other day (we just had dinner, nothing else). He’s asked her (pointedly) whether we’re attracted to each other. They just had another fight, & she told him she was gonna be hanging out w/ me to get him mad. D is VERY good looking, & she considers me one of her best friends, but I’m not attracted to her as more than a friend. She’s not my type. I’m sure she feels the same way about me. But I’m getting nervous, that I’m becoming a sticking point/pawn in D and her bf’s relationship. How do I steer clear of this storm?
Oh yeah, when D’s bf (temporarily) broke up with her a few weeks ago, he also said he thought “something was going on between [D and I]“. I’ve never met the guy, but from what D says, he sounds pretty possessive. Or maybe he’s just uncomfortable about ME. I’m not sure.

Apparently, a few years ago (before I knew her), D left him for another guy, then came back to him.

D is usually the one that calls me. She calls me a few times pretty much everyday. I usually miss the calls, but I’ll call back once every other day or so. I’m a little worried, because I feel like D thinks of me as one of her best friends, when I just think of her as a pretty good friend. I really don’t want to hurt her feelings, and I also don’t want to become a sticking point in D and her bf’s relationship. I don’t want them fighting b/c of me, because that usually ends up all bad for EVERYONE (including me).

So, how do I defuse this situation?

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Relationship Advice – Friendship Problem?

July 31, 2009
relationship problem advice
V.A. asked:


I’m pretty good friends w/ this girl, call her D. D & I spend a lot of time talking on the phone, >hour every other day or so. We’ve only hung out a few times though. D has a bf, & it’s pretty serious. The situation: Her bf doesn’t like the fact that D & I are friends. A few weeks ago, he (temporarily) broke up w/ D b/c she didn’t answer his phone while she was talking to me. According to her, he flipped out when D told him we hung out the other day (we just had dinner, nothing else). He’s asked her (pointedly) whether we’re attracted to each other. They just had another fight, & she told him she was gonna be hanging out w/ me to get him mad. D is VERY good looking, & she considers me one of her best friends, but I’m not attracted to her as more than a friend. She’s not my type. I’m sure she feels the same way about me. But I’m getting nervous, that I’m becoming a sticking point/pawn in D and her bf’s relationship. How do I steer clear of this storm?
Oh yeah, when D’s bf (temporarily) broke up with her a few weeks ago, he also said he thought “something was going on between [D and I]“. I’ve never met the guy, but from what D says, he sounds pretty possessive. Or maybe he’s just uncomfortable about ME. I’m not sure.

Apparently, a few years ago (before I knew her), D left him for another guy, then came back to him.

D is usually the one that calls me. She calls me a few times pretty much everyday. I usually miss the calls, but I’ll call back once every other day or so. I’m a little worried, because I feel like D thinks of me as one of her best friends, when I just think of her as a pretty good friend. I really don’t want to hurt her feelings, and I also don’t want to become a sticking point in D and her bf’s relationship. I don’t want them fighting b/c of me, because that usually ends up all bad for EVERYONE (including me).

So, how do I defuse this situation?

Curt

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having a relationship problem just need advice ?

July 9, 2009
relationship problem advice
saint asked:


i have been with this girl for a year and three months and its been hard on us we had to sneak around to see each other because her family had problems with me because i had a rough life and wasnt a saint.. well because its winter in her new room her window freezes so she cant get out to see me alot other than the occasional meet up at the mall deal so i have only had the chance to see her 4 times in the last couple months of the relationship she all of a sudden out of the blue has feelings for this other guy thats been hitting on her since we have been together and well she tells me since im the only person she has ever had a real relationship with that she needs to make sure that im the one that if she wants to continue her relationship with me she needed to date other ppl so she decided to take a break and date this other guy right off the bat as soon as the break started and i had to find out from friends that she was gona go on a date this guy the day after the break had began… she tells me she loves me all the time still and that we will b together and i was a perfect bf i treated her like a princess that she just needs to make sure im the one.. shes been with this guy on 2 dates and is holding hands making out and getting real serious real fast but then she doesnt want me to date other ppl wants me to just sit around and wait i thought it she was out of her mind…. well she keeps telling me she loves me but then gos and tells me oh she made out with her bf today…. i just dont know what to do i have had my chance to date lots of other girls and this is the only girl that i ever fell in love with and im just looking for advice on what to do about this because ive never had this happen before……. also yea i know its ironic the nickname love doc i can help other ppl with there relationships but cant help mine….. just looking for some advice

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Saving a relationship?

July 4, 2009
saving a relationship
pizzagirl asked:


I’ve been with the same guy for about 6 years. We were broken up for a while and saw other people and got back together. Our 2nd time through was better then our first. And things have been very good for about 2-3 years now. Problem is his friends from our first time through together that he still occasionally sees hates me and they don’t realize how serious we are because before he can even start talking to them about “us” they go back into smash talking about me. When we got back together he had some new friends that met me for the first time that I’ve known for 1-3 years for some. They really like me and respect me. But lately the influences from the other friends are taking over, and it’s easy for it to happen when we are going through a bump in the road. He might want to end it because of baggage from past. but its never a problem til these friends from the past resurface and remind him of things from years ago…
extra note: the friends from the past disappeared from his life for those years. (our 2nd time through) they wouldn’t return his calls and flaked out on him to hang out. Then suddenly someone got married that we knew when we were dating the first time through and my bf was invited but I was not. These old friends got reaquainted and started talking and bashing me again, (as if they’re immature and got nothing better to do). My bf told me about it, it kind of slipped and now it’s like old times again where he’s questioning us. It seems like these few friends are tearing us apart. We were fine before. I just want to tell them to back off and grow up! Everybody that knows us now after we graduated from college etc enjoy us as a couple and spend time with us. But seems like the old friends are still trying to yank him away.
That I was a nagging girlfriend that was smothering and dependent. I grew up and learned a lot from our time apart and I am a different person now. They forget that people can change from when they were 18. That was years ago….

Lucas
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