Brittany asked: My ex and I have been going out for three years. We both were eachothers first relationship, and first love.
We were very opposite. He is boring, calm, cautious, and conservative; on the other hand, I was wild, wacky, and weird. I didn’t mind that we were opposites but sometimes it irritated me. Overall he was a really nice and caring boy and that’s what mattered most. But over the years he changed greatly. He talked to more people made more friends and dressed different, more of what was in style. He became egotistic and very proud. He liked to brag a lot about his possessions and skills and cared too much about what people thought of him. He didn’t call me as much as he used to. When we went out places he never acted like he was my boyfriend because he would never display his affection towards me. He never paid for me for anything. Scott befriended a lot more girls now and, he started talking to people who I thought were bad influences. I was worried Scott was becoming a follower.
I put the most effort into our relationship. Altough he did buy me nice gifts for my birthday and holidays. He did give me affection when he wanted to and he told me he loved me. He also did respect me and didnt want me for just ***.
Senior year he told me he was going to go to a college upstate for business. It was three hours away and I was upset since I was staying home at a community college. He also told asked me if I ever thought about seeing other people because long distance relationships are difficult. I was so upset and asked him if he was planning on breaking up with me in college. He replied “no I just wanted to know what you were thinking… I was never planning on it…it’s just what if one of us finds someone while where apart”? After that I felt distant from him. I wondered if we really would last together in college. I mean we were both each other’s first relationship. We would never really know if we truly loved each other unless we dated other people. I realized that I actually felt the same way ever since Scott changed. I thought, “Not everyone’s perfect but I wasn’t a fan of his transformation.” To top things off, Scott ignored me on our senior trip to Disney. Our trip to Disney. He didn’t want to be with me the whole time we were down there. He only agreed to sit with me on the bus, other than that he was off with his friends and some where girls. This bothered me even more.
The summer was fun until I completely messed things up. Scott was away on vacation, and I was invited to this party one of my coworkers were having. I was planning on going with my friend. We get there and one of his friends was flirting with me. I was surprised because I never thought any cute guy thought I was attractive besides my bf. He was very good-looking and I was flattered by all his compliments and sweet talk. Then we got drunk and I madeout with him and stuff. I felt so guilty the next day and planned on telling my bf about what happened before he found out from someone else.
I told him what happened. He seemed okay with it. He didn’t seem upset and said,” well… I forgive you. This is the only real issue we’ve had in three years. I know you didn’t mean anything by it. I still love you”. I was awfully happy he didn’t **** me for what I did. However, a few days later He and I had another talk. He decided to break up with me. His excuse was “long distance relationships are hard and I think we should see other people. If were meant to be we’ll get back together. I’m also worried about worrying about you cheating on me again. I still love you but I think we need a break. I think we should still talk and be friends too”. Honestly, I think he was planning on dumping me before all this happened. Since the breakup we haven’t talked much and I realized how much I miss him.
After a week of him being up at college, he has another girlfriend already who looks like me!? … i know i hurt him. but i feel like we couldve gotten past this. Im so hurt now… and i feel sick.. Ugh and i feel like he put all the blame on me.. I think he wanted to be free and yet idk … im so confused i want him back …
i just need 2 no if thers still hope that theres a possibilty that we might get back together. We were so close…
is that whole ” if its meant to be ” thing is true..
ahhhh i need advice please
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