Dr. Dieter .S asked:


Around 2001 me and my ex wife got divorced. We were too young, but I tried to make it work. We had a 2 year old son together. She got really nasty in the divorce because I wanted Joint Custody. She used the fact that I was in the special forces and 9/11 and towers going down that I wouldn’t be around for joint custody. The judge gave her full custody and I had weekend visitation rights. A week later I was deployed to Afghanistan and the 5 before I shipped out the judge took away my visitation rights. I didn’t come back to the states for 237 days. At the time I was a 1st Lieutenant. Three days after I came back I filed an appeal. Of course it failed. I attempted to try again bit I was redeployed. I came back to the states around 2003 when I resumed my attempt at an appeal. This time I fought much harder and exhausted all funds but it was no use. It failed again. A month later my son died after he fell off the jungle gym at a park. He had severe head trauma. He was under my ex wife’s mother’s supervision. I don’t blame either of them. We attended his funeral together. I had not seen him almost 2 years. They still kept docking my pay for child support for 8 months until I filed a complaint.

Recently my ex wife broke up with boyfriend and decided to give me a call. She said she wanted to have lunch. I agreed to see her. After a long awkward drawn out lunch she asked me I wanted to get back together with her. She said she regretted everything. I said that I needed some time to think. I haven’t called her back.

I am a graduate of West Point and Boston University. I am currently a Major in the 10th Special Forces. I’m 35. I have gone on a total of six combat tours, if all of that is of any recollection or importance.

What the hell should I do?

Bennett