Does it make any sense to try saving this relationship?

December 16, 2009
saving a relationship
Chris asked:


My girlfriend moved in with me about a year ago. It was a long distance relationship (she in the UK and me in the US). We were planning to get married but I changed my mind and decided to end the relationship when I learned she had cheated on me on multiple occasions with at least 5 guys when she was in the UK. The problem is she just told me she is pregnant (with me). She says she is sorry and is pleading that we stay together. I have told her I don’t have the strength for that so she should just move out. Almost anything she says or does upsets me now. I will take care of the child if a DNA test proves that I am the father. She has asked others to plead on her behalf but I don’t see how I can trust her again. I feel so hurt and betrayed. I know it is not right but I have used lots and lots of “unkind” (to put it mildly) words for her. People tell me that I am being wicked and insensitive; that her moving over to the US shows she’s changed; that I should give her a chance; that people change; that the long distance might have been the problem (not that we will be together all the time even if we decided to marry). What do you think?

Eric
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Should I get back together with my ex? (He’s being such a jerk!)?

December 6, 2009
how to get back with my ex
B asked:


Hello.

I need some help. I was with my ex for a few years. We had a long distance relationship and we sort of drifted apart. I still care for him and we’re talking about meeting up again for the first time since our last meeting which was eight months ago.

Trouble is, he doesn’t treat me at all kind or show me any care or affection. You may ask why I continue to hang on, it’s because I still remember the good times and he used to love me a lot. I cancelled seeing him a couple times during the last few months we were a couple because we were fighting a lot and he was being rude to me.

Basically it was like chicken and egg, his disappointment led to him being mean and angry. His being mean and angry led to our not getting along.

We even have had intimacy through webcam and phone but even with both of those he still isn’t nice.

He basically just expects me to go visit him and we’ll ‘take it in baby steps’ but I don’t feel motivated to see him unless he shows me some true care or concern.

It’s going around and around. I want to forget him sometimes because he treats me like noone special at all and doesn’t even ask how I’m doing.

What should I do? Thanks.
He actually told me “You have to work on me caring for you again”.

Is this something that is to be expected from someone who feels angry that I cancelled a couple of our last planned meetings??

T Harper

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Long distance relationship problem, please advice? Promise to give 10 points best answer! ?

November 2, 2009
relationship problem advice
LA asked:


My crush is far from me. We met 2 years ago in a business. Ends up we started keeping in touch by email and recently phone calls. He has 2 kids that doesn’t live with him. He’s military and they visit him for the holidays.

I called him on Monday since I thought he was leaving this week. He said he’ll be there for xmas. He said he was going to write to me sooner after holidays and back to work. I happened to sent him a note on Tuesday but a failure notice came “relaying denied”. I thought it was a mistake but it couldn’t sent that day.

I wrote yesterday and although the failure notice didn’t came up, he didn’t replied. He said his kids were arriving on Thursday. Should I call him on xmas eve or leave it like that until new year’s and see what’s going on?

I mean, he had never done that and says he enjoys my emails and that’s nice to hear from me. Did I do something wrong?

Bennett

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How can I save my relationship?

October 19, 2009
saving a relationship
Jon D asked:


I’m in a long distance relationship, and lately, we’ve been having a great deal of difficulties. As of lately, we’ve both hurt each other, and broken each others trust on multiple occasions. We both don’t want to say goodbye, and we really want to save it. Unfortunately, we both seem to have a very difficult time letting things go that bother us about each other. We’ve both broken promises, we’ve both lied to each other, and we both get into arguments over stupid little things, and we snap at each other sometimes too. How can we save it? Please help!

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Long distance relationship problem, please advice? Promise to give 10 points best answer! ?

October 15, 2009
relationship problem advice
LA asked:


My crush is far from me. We met 2 years ago in a business. Ends up we started keeping in touch by email and recently phone calls. He has 2 kids that doesn’t live with him. He’s military and they visit him for the holidays.

I called him on Monday since I thought he was leaving this week. He said he’ll be there for xmas. He said he was going to write to me sooner after holidays and back to work. I happened to sent him a note on Tuesday but a failure notice came “relaying denied”. I thought it was a mistake but it couldn’t sent that day.

I wrote yesterday and although the failure notice didn’t came up, he didn’t replied. He said his kids were arriving on Thursday. Should I call him on xmas eve or leave it like that until new year’s and see what’s going on?

I mean, he had never done that and says he enjoys my emails and that’s nice to hear from me. Did I do something wrong?

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How can I save my relationship?

October 10, 2009
saving a relationship
Jon D asked:


I’m in a long distance relationship, and lately, we’ve been having a great deal of difficulties. As of lately, we’ve both hurt each other, and broken each others trust on multiple occasions. We both don’t want to say goodbye, and we really want to save it. Unfortunately, we both seem to have a very difficult time letting things go that bother us about each other. We’ve both broken promises, we’ve both lied to each other, and we both get into arguments over stupid little things, and we snap at each other sometimes too. How can we save it? Please help!

Coleman
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long distance relationship problem need advice?

September 19, 2009
relationship problem advice
Bukio asked:


I am 17 in florida and shes 15 in california. We talk and get along fine nothing horrible. My parents like her and want us to be together. The problem is her parents don’t like me. They only let us talk on the phone so she doesn’t give them much trouble and can use the threat of taking it away to get her to do things. We have been together for 3 years now. We have tried talking to them but they just won’t listen and keep saying were to young. I know we are but how are we to expericene life if they dont give a chance? any advice?
We also have never been face to face any advice on how we can get together would be great.

Kenny
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My ex-boyfriend still calls me to se how I’m doing but doesn’t want to get back with me! Please help :?

August 24, 2009
how to get back with my ex
devioussss asked:


I KNOW THIS IS LONG BUT PLEASE READ IT I REALLY NEED ADVICE :(

I’m an 18 year old girl and until now I’ve talked to a numerous amount of guys but I’ve never been hurt nor have I been so depressed and heart broken until today..Me and my ex-boyfriend met on myspace about 3 years ago..at first i honestly thought he was so random and I was just talking to him out of boredom, we were nothing alike btw this was a long distance relationship I live in California and he lives in Nevada..We talked as friends in the beginning and I never looked at him in any other way..after about a month he told me he likes me and I was honest with him and told him that I didn’t but I eventually started developing feelings for him..may I add I never saw him in person until recently..anyways as every couple does we started having arguments which would cause us to stop talking so it was an on n off phone relationship..after a year of knowing one another (while we were on
good terms) he told me he loved me I was honestly shocked but I didn’t tell him I love him because that would be a lie..after that we talked on and off for another year..and this is where it all started..after we got into a huge argument (he would always accuse me of lying) we stopes talking for a good 4 months and I guess he was tierd of always being the one to call and make up after our arguments, so this time he didn’t,sure I was seeing other guys but then I randomly started to miss him, so I decided to text him basically an apology..he gladly accepted it and told me he missed me but then again when I had him back I started doing stupid things again.. I would go out with other guys and lie to him about the stupidest things and I just wouldn’t treat him the right way buy may I add that he was very jealous and controlling he wouldn’t even let me go to my friends houses..anyways we fought one last time but this time was bad because I was and still am crazy in love with him..I saw him about 3 weeks ago for the first time after 3 years and I lost my virginity to him (which was a very big thing for me) after that everything was perfect for a goodweek until the arguments started again..he would always go out with his friends and he just quit his job which gave him even more spare time to see his friends..anyways he would go out with them and forget about me always accuse ke of talking to other guys and never believe me..I mean I know I kind of made him like that but I honestly changed i stopped talking to all my guy friends I changed a lot for him..I really love him a lot I can’t be without him..but he broke up with me for “lying” I begged him so much soooo much to give me one last chance I told him I would listen to everything he told me to do I would do anything for him and all he said was I gave u too many chances before..I know he did but I wasn’t lying to him and I have no way of proving that to him but I honestly need him..we broke up 4 days ago and I can’t stop being depressed and I can’t stop crying everything reminds me of him I don’t even wanna get out of the house..but then today he called means when I asked y he said because he wanted to see how I was doing but he made me so bad and he kept saying stupid sarcastic things which really made me cry and I know he loves me because of before and I know he still does but why wouldn’t he get back with me? I mean I said sorry more than a million times and that I love him I mean it’s not like I cheated on him or anything he’s just assuming something I just want one chance to prove to him that I have changed for the better I just never used to listen to anything he would tell me but now I realized he was saying it for my own good..today while we were talking and I started crying he kept saying please don’t cry I know it bugged him to see me like that so whyyy not why wouldn’t he give me one more chance i’m just so crushed please give me some sort of advice :( pleaseeeee nd sorry if this was confusing i just have so much on my mind..thankkkk u muahhh.

Roscoe

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long distance relationship problem need advice?

July 21, 2009
relationship problem advice
Bukio asked:


I am 17 in florida and shes 15 in california. We talk and get along fine nothing horrible. My parents like her and want us to be together. The problem is her parents don’t like me. They only let us talk on the phone so she doesn’t give them much trouble and can use the threat of taking it away to get her to do things. We have been together for 3 years now. We have tried talking to them but they just won’t listen and keep saying were to young. I know we are but how are we to expericene life if they dont give a chance? any advice?
We also have never been face to face any advice on how we can get together would be great.

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