What is the healing cure for a broken heart?

December 18, 2009
healing a broken heart
theoriginalwingding asked:


List as many things as you can to help someone who has just had their heart hugely hurt–and needs something healthy to heal.

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GIRLS ONLY! Do you think I can still get back with my ex girlfriend?

December 10, 2009
how to get back with my ex
Donn asked:


Ladies : Is my ex girlfriend trying to get back with me , or ***** with the head?
So my ex and I broke up a couple of weeks ago. We stopped talking for a week or so . I called her and said hey just wanted to see how you were doing. Busy, had to go see her dad. About maybe an hour or two hours later , she texts me with “hey” , we texted a little bit here and there and than I said “Well hey i’m going study, but i’ll call you in the future to see how your doing” which she said “ok fine” . About 4 or 5 hours ago , she calls me and I don’t pick up . She texts me and says “hey gimme a call when your free”. I wait 15 minutes and call her , we talk about 7 or 8 mins and than she says “hey i have to go , but do you want me to call you later?” and i said “well uhm….” and without even saying yes , she says “i’ll call you later tonight!” . I wait about an hour , and i say i’m going to bed but lets talk tomorrow. To which she responds , about an hour later, ok ok nite.

The next day , we didn’t talk and she never called.

I would like to apologise for my poor grammar btw, just trying to get a feel for it from other people.

I should also add that initially she wanted a break because she felt I wasn’t trust able (and I gotta admit , I did some not so nice things) . I rebuttal by saying to her “well if we’re going take a break , i’m just going break up and meet other girls” . Not my brightest moment , but nonetheless getting straight to the point. (After all , a break is a breakup , am I right?) About 2 weeks later , I wrote her apology letter saying that I have thought about my behavior and that yeah , I wasn’t trust able but losing her wasn’t worth lying to her about many things. So now we are up to present and the question is my current dilemma.

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Ladies : Is my ex girlfriend trying to get back with me , or ***** with the head?

December 8, 2009
how to get back with my ex
Donn asked:


So my ex and I broke up a couple of weeks ago. We stopped talking for a week or so . I called her and said hey just wanted to see how you were doing. Busy, had to go see her dad. About maybe an hour or two hours later , she texts me with “hey” , we texted a little bit here and there and than I said “Well hey i’m going study, but i’ll call you in the future to see how your doing” which she said “ok fine” . About 4 or 5 hours ago , she calls me and I don’t pick up . She texts me and says “hey gimme a call when your free”. I wait 15 minutes and call her , we talk about 7 or 8 mins and than she says “hey i have to go , but do you want me to call you later?” and i said “well uhm….” and without even saying yes , she says “i’ll call you later tonight!” . I wait about an hour , and i say i’m going to bed but lets talk tomorrow. To which she responds , about an hour later, ok ok nite.

The next day , we didn’t talk and she never called.

I would like to apologise for my poor grammar btw, just trying to get a feel for it from other people.

I should also add that initially she wanted a break because she felt I wasn’t trust able (and I gotta admit , I did some not so nice things) . I rebuttal by saying to her “well if we’re going take a break , i’m just going break up and meet other girls” . Not my brightest moment , but nonetheless getting straight to the point. (After all , a break is a breakup , am I right?) About 2 weeks later , I wrote her apology letter saying that I have thought about my behavior and that yeah , I wasn’t trust able but losing her wasn’t worth lying to her about many things. So now we are up to present and the question is my current dilemma.

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What is the healing cure for a broken heart?

December 2, 2009
healing a broken heart
theoriginalwingding asked:


List as many things as you can to help someone who has just had their heart hugely hurt–and needs something healthy to heal.

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Is my ex trying to get back with me?

October 13, 2009
how to get back with my ex
Jack asked:


So my ex and I broke up a couple of weeks ago. We stopped talking for a week or so . I called her and said hey just wanted to see how you were doing. Busy, had to go see her dad. About maybe an hour or two hours later , she texts me with “hey” , we texted a little bit here and there and than I said “Well hey i’m going study, but i’ll call you in the future to see how your doing” which she said “ok fine” . About 4 or 5 hours ago , she calls me and I don’t pick up . She texts me and says “hey gimme a call when your free”. I wait 15 minutes and call her , we talk about 7 or 8 mins and than she says “hey i have to go , but do you want me to call you later?” and i said “well uhm….” and without even saying yes , she says “i’ll call you later tonight!” . I wait about an hour , and i say i’m going to bed but lets talk tomorrow. To which she responds , about an hour later, ok ok nite.
I would like to apologise for my poor grammar btw, just trying to get a feel for it from other people.
I should also add that initially she wanted a break because she felt I wasn’t trust able (and I gotta admit , I did some not so nice things) . I rebuttal by saying to her “well if we’re going take a break , i’m just going break up and meet other girls” . Not my brightest moment , but nonetheless getting straight to the point. (After all , a break is a breakup , am I right?) About 2 weeks later , I wrote her apology letter saying that I have thought about my behavior and that yeah , I wasn’t trust able but losing her wasn’t worth lying to her about many things. So now we are up to present and the question is my current dilemma.

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September 25, 2009
saving a relationship
Andrew Mullins asked:


You might think it’s a shame that you can’t take a class called Save A Relationship 101 in college. You can take math classes, physics classes, literature classes – you can take a class on virtually everything under the sun! A class on how to save a relationship or relationships in general, however, is something that could help everyone and is available to no one. Fortunately, you already have the skills needed to save your relationship and make it better without needing a class. All you DO need is a willingness to work at it.

Most relationships, no matter what happens, can be saved. Now, there ARE a few relationships that just shouldn’t be saved, like those that are abusive or one in which both partners are really miserable. But most relationships have the potential to be saved. That should be lesson number one in any Save A Relationship 101 class.

The main problem is that people give up too soon. They’re angry, hurt, upset and it just seems easier to get out of the situation that made them that way. It’s all too easy to focus only on what’s happening now, and not the past. It’s all too easy to focus on what was bad in a relationship – instead of what was good.

If the relationship was good at one point, and lets face it – most were good in the beginning or they never would have happened, then it can be that way again. But people have to look past the anger and the problems that are happening now, and remember those good times. People have to ask themselves what has changed to turn the relationship from good to bad. Have THEY changed? Has their partner changed? Is their more stress that is putting a strain on the relationship? Has their been a loss of trust? There are so many “things” that can make a relationship go from good to bad and it’s very important to find out what it is. Once you can do that – you can find a way to save a relationship.

To cause further problems, often one person is ready to work hard to save a relationship. But the other person won’t look past the bad to remember the good. That person is ready to chuck it all away. Maybe they were cheated on or maybe they lost all trust in their partner and feel that they’ve had enough? For whatever reason, one person is ready to throw in the towel – and the other isn’t. And can only person save a relationship?

Sometimes one person can do it, but it’s not easy. It’s hard to stay positive and hopeful when your boyfriend of girlfriend doesn’t act or feel the same. It can start to feel like you’re fighting a losing battle. You need to keep fighting that battle, however, because even if the relationship doesn’t heal, it will make you a better person. That’s because the things you’ll do to try to save a relationship are simply good for you, and good for the other person, too.

It’s very important to remember the way you behaved when the relationship was new and going strong. Compare that to how you behave with that person now. How do you react to the things that they say and do NOW, to how you reacted to those same things when the relationship was young and good. Turn things around by acting the way you used to, and doing the things you used to.

Strive to be polite again just as you were in the beginning. Be thoughtful and be a good friend to the person whenever you can, even if you’re not going to get anything out of it. Don’t beg them or threaten them with what will happen if they don’t come back. Use POSITIVE reinforcement – not negative. Follow the Golden Rule! (It DOES work ya know!)

Do your very best to show them the person that they want to be with again. Bring out the best “you” no matter what. Show them that you care enough to give them your very best. It’s a win-win situation all around.



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September 24, 2009
saving a relationship
Justin Case asked:


Do you want to know how to save a relationship?

Stop blaming, accusing and judging. Now you know how to save a relationship. But let us go on if you need more example.

Passing blame does not solve problems. Getting personal only puts each other on the defense where nothing gets heard, let alone solved. The first thing to realize is, it is no one persons fault. As they say, it takes two to tango.

The second thing to do is pinpoint the problem, not the person believed to be the problem. Remember when you point your finger there are four pointing back at you. Do not make the mistake of thinking symptoms are the cause of the problem or problems. They are not.

A good example might be cheating on your spouse or your spouse cheating on you if you prefer. Many things happened or not before things got to that point. I might call it alienation of affection. One party stopped being committed to the other and their thoughts started traveling to forbidden territories. The cheating or affair is simply a symptom of a deeper cause.

Lack of intimacy. Lack of time. Lack of consideration could all be causes leading to the effect or affair. If you do not identify and pinpoint this problem and remedy it the situation never heals.

If the problem is time, spend more time together. Take time to talk daily. Not just nod your head, but talk. Have a real conversation about things of interest. Listen. Really listen to what is being said. Do not interrupt and monopolize the conversation and do not rush to end this sacred time.

When you have uncovered the cause of the problem it is time for communication to really begin in earnest. As before stated, it is time for listening and really hearing what is said. Get your feelings out in the open. Even if it is scary. Look each other in the eye, sit close and hold hands. Even if it is the last thing you want to do. This is your relationship you are saving. This is the person you fell in love with.

Reconnect for the first time in along time. Feel what each other is feeling and let the emotions flow if they feel must. Remember, there is to be no personal attacks here. No “you’s” are allowed. No one person is to blame.

When you have identified the issues put together a plan of action to put this relationship back on a healthy foundation. Take immediate steps to implement these plans. If you were not spending quality time together set up a date night. In fact, if you don’t already have a date night schedule it now. Take turns creating an interesting time. It does not necessarily mean spending money. Some of the best dates are simply time together.

Now is time to commit to doing this and hold each other to it and no excuses are allowed, unless one is in the hospital. Kids are included in this part if you have any.

Bigger rewards will come to you than you can imagine when working to save a relationship. Bonding and connecting will be on a deeper level than ever before. Trials strengthen relationships if you will let them. Remember, what does not kill you will make you stronger.

Be the first to apologize and the last to blame. Share in each others tears of joy and tears of frustration and hold each other closer than ever before.

Is your relationship worth saving?  If it is you just saved a counselors fee to learn how to save a relationship. Now do it.



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August 10, 2009
saving a relationship
Katie Wang asked:


If your marriage is in trouble, saving a relationship may be the top concern in your mind. This is especially true if you still love your spouse and want the relationship to work. You can feel your partner pulling away from you, and can’t help but feel that he or she resents being with you. You know a break-up is coming, and you’re desperate to prevent it. So, what do you do?

First of all, make sure you appear calm on the outside, even if you’re not on the inside. If your spouse sees that you’re stressing out over the relationship, he or she will feel pressured to be emotionally available to you – and that’s a sure way to ensure your spouse acts just the opposite! The more stressed you seem, the more your spouse is going to pull away from you. So, keep it together when you’re in their presence.

Next, don’t beg your partner to love you again and work things out. Give your partner the space he needs, instead. Begging is distasteful, and will cause your spouse to lose respect for you. If respect goes out the window, so does your chances of saving a relationship! Accept that your spouse needs some time alone right now, and provide that in the most gracious way you can. It may be difficult now, but it will help create just the right atmosphere for reconciliation.

Work with your spouse to discover a common purpose together. Marriages always work best when there’s a shared sense of purpose between spouses. This purpose can be many things. It can be something as simple as to love each other or raise children, or it can be something grander, like taking up a charitable cause or working to improve your community.

Work to discover an area where both of you can agree to and be pleased about. It is important to always remember that a very significant purpose of your marriage is to help and cheer for each other regardless of the circumstances. Love is an important bridge in a married life that will keep the couples attached together.

Finally, talk with your partner about what you value in him, and ask that he do the same for you. Once you know that you’re both highly valued by the other, then saving a relationship becomes much easier. People often leave marriages because they think they aren’t loved or appreciated. When that knowledge is there, it acts like a powerful glue that bonds the two of you together. Relationships like that rarely break apart.

Your relationship doesn’t have to be over, and in fact couples are reuniting all over the place due to a complete system I’m about to share with you.

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June 7, 2009
saving a relationship
Jake Fitzgerald asked:


If your marriage is in trouble, saving a relationship may be the top concern in your mind. This is especially true if you still love your spouse and want the relationship to work. You can feel your partner pulling away from you, and can’t help but feel that he or she resents being with you. You know a break-up is coming, and you’re desperate to prevent it. So, what do you do?

First of all, make sure you appear calm on the outside, even if you’re not on the inside. If your spouse sees that you’re stressing out over the relationship, he or she will feel pressured to be emotionally available to you – and that’s a sure way to ensure your spouse acts just the opposite! The more stressed you seem, the more your spouse is going to pull away from you. So, keep it together when you’re in their presence.

Next, don’t beg your partner to love you again and work things out. Give your partner the space he needs, instead. Begging is distasteful, and will cause your spouse to lose respect for you. If respect goes out the window, so does your chances of saving a relationship! Accept that your spouse needs some time alone right now, and provide that in the most gracious way you can. It may be difficult now, but it will help create just the right atmosphere for reconciliation.

Work with your spouse to discover a common purpose together. Marriages always work best when there’s a shared sense of purpose between spouses. This purpose can be many things. It can be something as simple as to love each other or raise children, or it can be something grander, like taking up a charitable cause or working to improve your community.

Work to discover an area where both of you can agree to and be pleased about. It is important to always remember that a very significant purpose of your marriage is to help and cheer for each other regardless of the circumstances. Love is an important bridge in a married life that will keep the couples attached together.

Finally, talk with your partner about what you value in him, and ask that he do the same for you. Once you know that you’re both highly valued by the other, then saving a relationship becomes much easier. People often leave marriages because they think they aren’t loved or appreciated. When that knowledge is there, it acts like a powerful glue that bonds the two of you together. Relationships like that rarely break apart.

Your relationship doesn’t have to be over, and in fact couples are reuniting all over the place due to a complete system I’m about to share with you.



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