relationship problem advice needed?

relationship problem advice
stinkers_uk asked:


i met a guy months ago and he is far away. he told me right from day 1 that he is petrified of travelling, trains planes etc. so I have been doing all the running. even though it has been very tough!

he has asked me to move in with him but i am worried. he was supposed to come up and stay and hasn’t because he said he couldn’t afford to come. making excuses. i wanted him to come to show his commitment and to see how we all get on as a family. But he’s saying that if i am to move in we will need all the money we can get hold of until we’re sorted out. i know he has a fear and gets panic attacks but can’t he even try???

I am worried that he is taking the mick out of me, i have been hurt in the past and left standing…although now i have kids to put first. if he doesn’t come up here how can we test the water?? we might not get on living together. and to be honest how well can you know someone when you see them once a week? and what if he hasn’t really got a fear or travalling and i’m a gullible idiot! he could be using me.

what do you reckon?? am i being selfish. we are made for each other (at face value). he tells me he loves me all the time and he talks about our future together etc etc But i can’t halp being suspicious. my last relationship was violent and he was a control freak. so i am a little scared.

not all men are losers…right??
he will lose his house as well if i don’t move in, he hasn’t told me that but i know he can’t afford it single handed. Theres no prob with that he can move somewhere else (if he can get the bond together) but it is in a great location and the schools are fantastic. If I don’t do it now then that means when we do move in later on we’ll have to completely start a fresh. Including saving up a bond etc and we more than likely won’t beable to afford to get back into the area. and we’ll have to settle for some cheap dodgy area.

And yes he has met the kids and they are all ok with each other. He has kids of his own so he’s not a weirdo or anything. he also has had long relationships so he’s not after a bit of skirt. but the prob is he wants his cake and to eat it. he’s very ‘us’ orientated but whether its just a front i don’t know. It’s a huge gamble!! i can move back though as long as I keep the keys for my old place. so i have a leeway of a couple of weeks.

relationship problem advice needed?

relationship problem advice
stinkers_uk asked:


i met a guy months ago and he is far away. he told me right from day 1 that he is petrified of travelling, trains planes etc. so I have been doing all the running. even though it has been very tough!

he has asked me to move in with him but i am worried. he was supposed to come up and stay and hasn’t because he said he couldn’t afford to come. making excuses. i wanted him to come to show his commitment and to see how we all get on as a family. But he’s saying that if i am to move in we will need all the money we can get hold of until we’re sorted out. i know he has a fear and gets panic attacks but can’t he even try???

I am worried that he is taking the mick out of me, i have been hurt in the past and left standing…although now i have kids to put first. if he doesn’t come up here how can we test the water?? we might not get on living together. and to be honest how well can you know someone when you see them once a week? and what if he hasn’t really got a fear or travalling and i’m a gullible idiot! he could be using me.

what do you reckon?? am i being selfish. we are made for each other (at face value). he tells me he loves me all the time and he talks about our future together etc etc But i can’t halp being suspicious. my last relationship was violent and he was a control freak. so i am a little scared.

not all men are losers…right??
he will lose his house as well if i don’t move in, he hasn’t told me that but i know he can’t afford it single handed. Theres no prob with that he can move somewhere else (if he can get the bond together) but it is in a great location and the schools are fantastic. If I don’t do it now then that means when we do move in later on we’ll have to completely start a fresh. Including saving up a bond etc and we more than likely won’t beable to afford to get back into the area. and we’ll have to settle for some cheap dodgy area.

And yes he has met the kids and they are all ok with each other. He has kids of his own so he’s not a weirdo or anything. he also has had long relationships so he’s not after a bit of skirt. but the prob is he wants his cake and to eat it. he’s very ‘us’ orientated but whether its just a front i don’t know. It’s a huge gamble!! i can move back though as long as I keep the keys for my old place. so i have a leeway of a couple of weeks.

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help with my crazy relationship problem. can someone offer advice?

relationship problem advice
Tyguy asked:


Im 19 and my girlfriend is 17 and i love her very much, she is my best friend in the whole world , literally. all my other friends got into alcohol, partying etc, which im not into at all.

When we first started going out everything was great, we enjoyed each others company, and i couldn’thave been happier with my life.

we both came from broken homes. and we found comfort in each others company and life experiences.

Well about a month into the relationship, i get robbed/strong armed by 5 gangsters they stole all my money and all of my paintball Equipment in a parking lot, im talking $1000s in equiptment + cash . I became an emotional wreck, i was afraid to leave my house. My girlfriend saw my fear as a weakness and said i was weak and started saying that she felt like she “wore the pants” in the relationship. Then i find out that she cheated on me twice within the same week with 2 different guys from her school. i confront her about it and she say that im not the guy she fell in love with because ever since i got robbed she didn’t feel as though i was manly enough for her and that she didnt feel like i could ever protect her.

about a week passes and she admits that she was wrong that that she still want to be with me. everything has been good for nearly a year and a half now, a minor argument here and there but nothing big.

but recently my girlfriends father got married to his girlfriend, who is a terrible gold digger. everyone in his family openly doesnt like her and she treats my girlfriend like a maid.

the problem wasnt so much that they got married, but more the fact that her father didnt tell anyone on his side of the family that they were getting married. However everyone on his girlfriends side of the family was invited to the wedding.

so here my girlfriend is upset that her own father couldnt even tell his own daughter that he was getting married.

the worst part was that my girlfriend had overheard them making wedding plans, so the whole family was waiting on him to have the guts to tell them , but he never did.

i know long confusing story, but heres where my current problem starts….

My girlfriend is very upset and she wants my advice. i tell her she needs to confront her father and tell him exactly how she feels.

she never confronted him and acts like she isnt mad at him. so again when she asked for advice, i told her the same thing, and once again she didnt listen.

so.. after the millionth time i still listen to her problem, but instead of sayiong the same thing, i tell her that she needs to figure it out on her own if she wants things to change.

a few days after the conversation, she says she had made new friends at school and would like to go to the football game with them.
I say ok, trying to be supportive of her.

so i get off work and i go to pick her up from the football game, whe tells me that one of her new friends burst into tears because he liked her and was jealous because other guys talked to her.

so im thinking to myself here we go again with boy drama…

she says its no big deal and that she would never hurt me again.

so then week goes by and she says she want to spend saturday with her new friend, im like ok whatever she needs some room for other friends i guess.

all saturday she doesnt call me (i had to call her and 1 in the morning sunday) and i find out that she’s spending the night.

im like ok, but it would have been nice if she had called, because i was worried about her being out so late (her dad usually wants her home by 9)

so then sunday i call her up ask what her plans were for the day, she said: im going to spend the day with my new friend.

once again im fine with it, (her new friend is a girl)

i call her sunday night when she comes home. i ask her if she had fun etc.

then all of a sudden she gets really mad saying that i dont support her like her friends do and that she needs room to be herself.

ME: “i didnt stop you from going out with your friends”

Her: ” you are getting mad at me for having friends”

ME: ” what are you talking about? i was %100 behind you going out with your friends”

Her: “No you are mad that i didnt spend the time with you ”

me: “no i wasnt mad and i dont know what you are talking about”

Her: “We need a break , because i need room to find out who i am”

This came out of NOWHERE

and now she threatens to break up with me permanently when ever i want to talk about it .

I am so confused, because i litterally didnt do anything

I dont exaclty know what to do now, i just lost my best friend/ girlfriend and i cant find closure because i dont know what happend and she wont tell me, i mean we’ve bben together for nearly 2 year and all of a sudden she breaks up with me without any reason and wont say a word to me other than: “if you bring up anything about me breaking up with you im leaving you forever and i will never get back with you”.

i dont
..i dont know what to do

i love her , but its seems like some kind of crazy dream

we wernt fighting, or anything and she breaks up with me after a weekend out with friends

advice?

Jorge

saving a relationship
Mr. Pom asked:


Are you someone feeling that something wrong is going in your relationship working on the facts of saving a relationship? Don’t be blind-folded for your relationship and take it for granted. This might be the first mistake you might be making in this long term status. Never loose out on it because of the reason that you have lost excitement and interest in your relationship.

Don’t ignore the rocky status because you still have a long way to go in your life with them. Here are some tools which might help you in saving a relationship. Try to identify the problem that is hurting you and her every time you both are together. This dilemma if solved can make your life vibrant and exciting.

The root cause of the problem should be talked about by sitting together. Id anyone of you feel deserted or lonely or cheated? Ask such questions to each other. Is money the matter of dispute? These small queries can clear out the actual scenario and may be a stepping stone in saving a relationship.

Trap the problem and talk to each other as in how can you sort it out. This might surprise the other one that you are really working to mend and saving a relationship. Open communications work faster than the ones which has friends as interpreters.

Decide on a particular course of actions so that you bath can spend quality time together everyday. Listen to your partner’s problem carefully because saving a relationship is not one sided business. Make promises to each other that should be fulfilled. Keep your words and stick to it. These discussions can make you live a healthy and happy relationship.





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What is the best way to save and renew a relationship? How to make it work?

saving a relationship
Nika asked:


Come on!

Give me some ideas.

I have been with my man for a long time now and things are getting boring… I need ideas on how to make our relationship new again… Its been about 3 years and we always do the same thing. Neither of us drinks or smokes, we don’t go “clubbing” because of all the retards everywhere… We need something fun to do that doesn’t cost any money…

Anything that could save this relationship will be appreciated.

Thanks.

SHOULD I GET BACK WITH MY EX CUZ OF MY BABY?

how to get back with my ex
Aaron asked:


Is it bad to want to take my baby mama back only because of my baby… cuz i dont really think im in love with her..

o and cuz of child support too 850 a month is a lot of money…

Ned

What is the best way to save and renew a relationship? How to make it work?

saving a relationship
Nika asked:


Come on!

Give me some ideas.

I have been with my man for a long time now and things are getting boring… I need ideas on how to make our relationship new again… Its been about 3 years and we always do the same thing. Neither of us drinks or smokes, we don’t go “clubbing” because of all the retards everywhere… We need something fun to do that doesn’t cost any money…

Anything that could save this relationship will be appreciated.

Thanks.

relationship problem.advice please! A GUYS OPINION WOULD BE GREAT?

relationship problem advice
Baby Girl #2 Due 11-6-09 asked:


ok please dont criticize me im not sure how to handle this. Im 6 months pregnant and i recently left the father. Since december he has been spending a majority of his time with a woman older than him telling me nothing sexual is going on he is just playing her for her money. I knew right there he wasnt the man i met. He still sees the same woman but since its started she thinks they are getting married, its an endless circle but she knows about me and who i am but obviously doesnt care. since i left he calls continuously everyday saying how he f****d up and is begging me to forgive him. I dont believe its innocent at all. He is to involved with he family and even her jobs parties. She doesnt know im having his baby but shes making my life so dramatic. Ive left and changed my number and all that but i cant forgive him and he cant understand why. HE IS A FABULOUS LIAR! He thinks i believe it all…idk im in need of some good mature advice! what the hell do i do to get out or change something? ultimatums dont work with him.
JEFF…Did you miss the part where i said I LEFT HIM?? Get some glasses pal.

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relationship problem.advice please! A GUYS OPINION WOULD BE GREAT?

relationship problem advice
Baby Girl #2 Due 11-6-09 asked:


ok please dont criticize me im not sure how to handle this. Im 6 months pregnant and i recently left the father. Since december he has been spending a majority of his time with a woman older than him telling me nothing sexual is going on he is just playing her for her money. I knew right there he wasnt the man i met. He still sees the same woman but since its started she thinks they are getting married, its an endless circle but she knows about me and who i am but obviously doesnt care. since i left he calls continuously everyday saying how he f****d up and is begging me to forgive him. I dont believe its innocent at all. He is to involved with he family and even her jobs parties. She doesnt know im having his baby but shes making my life so dramatic. Ive left and changed my number and all that but i cant forgive him and he cant understand why. HE IS A FABULOUS LIAR! He thinks i believe it all…idk im in need of some good mature advice! what the hell do i do to get out or change something? ultimatums dont work with him.
JEFF…Did you miss the part where i said I LEFT HIM?? Get some glasses pal.

Randal

help with my crazy relationship problem. can someone offer advice?

relationship problem advice
Tyguy asked:


Im 19 and my girlfriend is 17 and i love her very much, she is my best friend in the whole world , literally. all my other friends got into alcohol, partying etc, which im not into at all.

When we first started going out everything was great, we enjoyed each others company, and i couldn’thave been happier with my life.

we both came from broken homes. and we found comfort in each others company and life experiences.

Well about a month into the relationship, i get robbed/strong armed by 5 gangsters they stole all my money and all of my paintball Equipment in a parking lot, im talking $1000s in equiptment + cash . I became an emotional wreck, i was afraid to leave my house. My girlfriend saw my fear as a weakness and said i was weak and started saying that she felt like she “wore the pants” in the relationship. Then i find out that she cheated on me twice within the same week with 2 different guys from her school. i confront her about it and she say that im not the guy she fell in love with because ever since i got robbed she didn’t feel as though i was manly enough for her and that she didnt feel like i could ever protect her.

about a week passes and she admits that she was wrong that that she still want to be with me. everything has been good for nearly a year and a half now, a minor argument here and there but nothing big.

but recently my girlfriends father got married to his girlfriend, who is a terrible gold digger. everyone in his family openly doesnt like her and she treats my girlfriend like a maid.

the problem wasnt so much that they got married, but more the fact that her father didnt tell anyone on his side of the family that they were getting married. However everyone on his girlfriends side of the family was invited to the wedding.

so here my girlfriend is upset that her own father couldnt even tell his own daughter that he was getting married.

the worst part was that my girlfriend had overheard them making wedding plans, so the whole family was waiting on him to have the guts to tell them , but he never did.

i know long confusing story, but heres where my current problem starts….

My girlfriend is very upset and she wants my advice. i tell her she needs to confront her father and tell him exactly how she feels.

she never confronted him and acts like she isnt mad at him. so again when she asked for advice, i told her the same thing, and once again she didnt listen.

so.. after the millionth time i still listen to her problem, but instead of sayiong the same thing, i tell her that she needs to figure it out on her own if she wants things to change.

a few days after the conversation, she says she had made new friends at school and would like to go to the football game with them.
I say ok, trying to be supportive of her.

so i get off work and i go to pick her up from the football game, whe tells me that one of her new friends burst into tears because he liked her and was jealous because other guys talked to her.

so im thinking to myself here we go again with boy drama…

she says its no big deal and that she would never hurt me again.

so then week goes by and she says she want to spend saturday with her new friend, im like ok whatever she needs some room for other friends i guess.

all saturday she doesnt call me (i had to call her and 1 in the morning sunday) and i find out that she’s spending the night.

im like ok, but it would have been nice if she had called, because i was worried about her being out so late (her dad usually wants her home by 9)

so then sunday i call her up ask what her plans were for the day, she said: im going to spend the day with my new friend.

once again im fine with it, (her new friend is a girl)

i call her sunday night when she comes home. i ask her if she had fun etc.

then all of a sudden she gets really mad saying that i dont support her like her friends do and that she needs room to be herself.

ME: “i didnt stop you from going out with your friends”

Her: ” you are getting mad at me for having friends”

ME: ” what are you talking about? i was %100 behind you going out with your friends”

Her: “No you are mad that i didnt spend the time with you ”

me: “no i wasnt mad and i dont know what you are talking about”

Her: “We need a break , because i need room to find out who i am”

This came out of NOWHERE

and now she threatens to break up with me permanently when ever i want to talk about it .

I am so confused, because i litterally didnt do anything

I dont exaclty know what to do now, i just lost my best friend/ girlfriend and i cant find closure because i dont know what happend and she wont tell me, i mean we’ve bben together for nearly 2 year and all of a sudden she breaks up with me without any reason and wont say a word to me other than: “if you bring up anything about me breaking up with you im leaving you forever and i will never get back with you”.

i dont
..i dont know what to do

i love her , but its seems like some kind of crazy dream

we wernt fighting, or anything and she breaks up with me after a weekend out with friends

advice?