Jo Mark asked:
Over time, most any relationship will lose the initial fire and spark that you once felt. This is normal. But what can you do if your burning passion has cooled down and remains merely as smoldering embers or worse. Following are some tips on things you can do if you are trying to save a relationship.
First and foremost, don’t run out and try to have an affair to make your significant other jealous. Many people mistakenly think that an affair will make their relationship stronger. Nothing could be further from the truth. For every couple that remains (or gets back together) following an affair, twenty others are completely destroyed because of it. So, don’t do it if you are trying to save a relationship.
Rediscover each other. After a while, many relationships deteriorate. Life with your significant other becomes routine and boring. Put some pizzazz back into the relationship. Set up a date night. Go to places where you went when you first started dating. Get dressed up like you did when you were dating and go to a favorite restaurant, the beach, the park, or your favorite sidewalk café for coffee.
Develop new traditions and activities by participating in new adventures together. Experiencing these new adventures together can strengthen your bonds and re-kindle the spark. And, if you like one thing and your significant other likes something else, alternate and do one of those activities each week. This sort of give and take can go a long way if you are trying to save a relationship.
And last but not least, if you feel that the relationship is worth saving, be creative. Get a bottle of wine and watch a movie on TV. Leave each other surprise messages, include a coupon for a back rub, foot rub, or ***. Offer to do a job (for the week) that your significant other normally does: cook dinner, do the dishes, vacuum the house, take out the trash, wash the car. Be creative! For additional details, go to Save Your Relationship!
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HisLOVEdrug<3 asked:
I find im a very picky person and get mad to quickly and because i do i never last in a relationship,Now ive been dating this guy for a while now i really like him and i wanna change but how ?!
Burgess
Jc Coll asked:
“Please help me save my relationship!” Is this where you’re at right now? I know it’s an extremely hard time for you right now after a divorce or break up, not to mention how tough it gets if you’re trying to save your relationship.
It’s tough because one wrong move and you’ll lose the person you love forever! Often times, what feels like the right thing to do, is wrong. I know it, I’ve been there. And therefore this time I’m going to share with you the truths that help me save my relationship at my lowest moments.
You might not heard of the methods I used to help me save my relationship few months back, but after so many people tried and saved their relationships even what seems to be the most complicated situations, I can tell you these methods definitely stand a chance for you to read on!
Counterintuitive Technique #1
This very first method employs the agreeableness of you and your ex that both of you have broken up. I know, to agree towards a break up and accept that it’s already a fact is not easy.
However, it’s obvious that when a couple broke up both of them are hurt and so giving your ex some time to themselves shows that you respect them, in times they will start to miss you again. When I first tried out this method, it broke all skeptical thoughts about it because it takes effect very fast. I’ve personally leveraged on this to help me save my relationship, and worked perfectly well.
Counterintuitive Technique #2
The second method I used was to cut off all communications. Ok, you’re probably thinking “How on Earth this will help me save my relationship, if I don’t even communicate with her!” Well, hold on first because it works, and it’s extreme effective!
Not only it will show your ex that you’re serious about it, by not communicating at all will give ample time for your ex to miss you, and reconsider about their decisions to do so. It also sets you up for the next method to help you save your relationship!
Counterintuitive Technique #3
The next move will be to plan an event where you two can reconnect. You could bump into them “incidentally”, or time it nicely so they bump into you right on time. However there are many critical steps in between you can not leave out! Read my story and discover all the counterintuitive and unconventional truth that had help me save my relationship, it probably works for you too!
I totally understand how you are feeling right now, but time is not on your side my friend.. If I were you, I’d take my first step to help me save my relationship by Clicking Here!
Just to make sure you get my points that these methods had been working for me, however it might not work for every case. Anyway these tactics to help you save your relationship are extracted from a great book which I had reviewed in my blog, make sure you read my story!
Wishing For You,
Jc Coll
Kenneth Dean asked:
No relationship ever goes smooth sailing all the way. At some stages of the relationship, a couple could undergo conflicts and misunderstandings. However, there are relationships that could put one or both of the individuals in such turmoil while trying to make it work which makes you doubt the wisdom in saving a relationship such as this. No amount of marriage counseling and trying can revive the respect and love. The passion is just not there anymore. Then it starts to go downhill as this leads to other problems such as going on a date. Family and friends could give us countless tips and suggestions just to realize that problems still lie beneath.
In the eyes of many, it may seem that saving a relationship may be the noble and the right thing to do. However, only you and your partner could really assess if all the trouble and effort will be well worth it. After all has been said and done, it could be that divorce or separation is the best way to take. Having gone through so much together generally makes the couple take a shot at saving a relationship despite the amount of effort and hurt that it could entail. In the end, all these could be futile especially if the feelings are no longer there.
You can make a self-assessment just to check if saving it should be in your agenda. If you were to make a list of people you love hanging out with, is this person on the list? Do you generally have a good time together? Is being with this person make you feel content? Do you remember when was the last time you had so much fun just being with this person? I ask you these because these are the basic things that make a relationship work at the very least, finding joy, contentment and solace in the person you are in a relationship with.
Being able to respect, listen and understand your partner’s views and vice versa is most essential in any relationship. Can you honestly say that this is true in your case? If this is so, saving a relationship is still possible
A relationship is where you can find solace and security when everything has gone awry. It is where you momentarily take a breather, take stock of things and regain your strength and self-confidence. If this is not where you are at during troubled times, then the relationship may not be happening at all.
Issues about unfaithfulness should be dealt with promptly because jealousy and distrust can eat up even healthy relationships. If you and your partner are not able to trust each other, you should both consider undergoing marriage counseling or therapy.
Saving a relationship is a monumental task and any decision to save or end it should be taken only after all relevant issues have been seriously taken into consideration. After presenting yourself with these questions and giving truly honest answers, then you can perhaps adjudge if you should quit now or persevere at saving a relationship.
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Andrew Mullins asked:
You might think it’s a shame that you can’t take a class called Save A Relationship 101 in college. You can take math classes, physics classes, literature classes – you can take a class on virtually everything under the sun! A class on how to save a relationship or relationships in general, however, is something that could help everyone and is available to no one. Fortunately, you already have the skills needed to save your relationship and make it better without needing a class. All you DO need is a willingness to work at it.
Most relationships, no matter what happens, can be saved. Now, there ARE a few relationships that just shouldn’t be saved, like those that are abusive or one in which both partners are really miserable. But most relationships have the potential to be saved. That should be lesson number one in any Save A Relationship 101 class.
The main problem is that people give up too soon. They’re angry, hurt, upset and it just seems easier to get out of the situation that made them that way. It’s all too easy to focus only on what’s happening now, and not the past. It’s all too easy to focus on what was bad in a relationship – instead of what was good.
If the relationship was good at one point, and lets face it – most were good in the beginning or they never would have happened, then it can be that way again. But people have to look past the anger and the problems that are happening now, and remember those good times. People have to ask themselves what has changed to turn the relationship from good to bad. Have THEY changed? Has their partner changed? Is their more stress that is putting a strain on the relationship? Has their been a loss of trust? There are so many “things” that can make a relationship go from good to bad and it’s very important to find out what it is. Once you can do that – you can find a way to save a relationship.
To cause further problems, often one person is ready to work hard to save a relationship. But the other person won’t look past the bad to remember the good. That person is ready to chuck it all away. Maybe they were cheated on or maybe they lost all trust in their partner and feel that they’ve had enough? For whatever reason, one person is ready to throw in the towel – and the other isn’t. And can only person save a relationship?
Sometimes one person can do it, but it’s not easy. It’s hard to stay positive and hopeful when your boyfriend of girlfriend doesn’t act or feel the same. It can start to feel like you’re fighting a losing battle. You need to keep fighting that battle, however, because even if the relationship doesn’t heal, it will make you a better person. That’s because the things you’ll do to try to save a relationship are simply good for you, and good for the other person, too.
It’s very important to remember the way you behaved when the relationship was new and going strong. Compare that to how you behave with that person now. How do you react to the things that they say and do NOW, to how you reacted to those same things when the relationship was young and good. Turn things around by acting the way you used to, and doing the things you used to.
Strive to be polite again just as you were in the beginning. Be thoughtful and be a good friend to the person whenever you can, even if you’re not going to get anything out of it. Don’t beg them or threaten them with what will happen if they don’t come back. Use POSITIVE reinforcement – not negative. Follow the Golden Rule! (It DOES work ya know!)
Do your very best to show them the person that they want to be with again. Bring out the best “you” no matter what. Show them that you care enough to give them your very best. It’s a win-win situation all around.
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